I remember towards the later half of college and the years following, it seemed like everybody and their mom was trying to set me up with someone they knew. Especially since for some reason moms really like me, I was constantly being told about someone’s daughter, niece or friends that would be absolutely perfect for me. As you can imagine, little did they know…
I am not sure exactly when it happened but around the time I hit 25 or 26, all of that suddenly stopped. I honestly feel as though for the last two or three years I was not approached at all by someone making an attempt to pair me up with someone. Obviously I still had a plethora of comments about the need for me to get married but perhaps due to the vagabond lifestyle or the non-career mentality, it was no longer a common agenda for those around me to play matchmaker with me.
Three months ago, either the stars aligned to cast a special light on me, the unusually warm winter is causing everyone to mistake the season to be the love-lusted spring, or now that I have a “respectable” job… the whole process has kicked in again. It has been so strange how many people have approached me lately. Not only have there been attempts at people playing matchmaker, but I have had girls I knew back in college even contact me suggesting we get coffee. I simply don’t get it. These are girls I haven’t spoken to or seen in over 6 years.
I recently learned that at a local baby shower all the women got into a conversation about how hard it is to find a good single Christian man. Not only one, but two ladies whom I don’t even know brought my name up. As a result, my coworker, who was at the shower, is now trying to set up double dates with me and whoever the heck they are trying to help move onto the necessary stage of life in the Christian world. What is going on?
I am excellent at talking my way around these conversations, however at this point it is almost assumed by people that I would jump on any opportunity to meet a possible future mate. People aren’t able to grasp why I do not date and so at least to me, it has got to be blatantly obvious to everyone I am probably gay. With the way people have been pressuring me to date again lately, I am seriously considering coming out to everyone just to end the hassle. I am isolated as it is and all of my close friends know anyway, so it wouldn’t really matter a whole lot. I think it I wasn’t working with the youth group at my church, I would definitely consider it. Anyone have any creative responses for me to give?
My friend and I are joking now that when people tell me they have someone special they know, I should simply respond, “Is he a dude?” I am sure that the conversation would end pretty quick at that point.